Valentine’s Day is coming up in about twelve days (note to self: Valentine’s Day is coming in twelve days! Hurry up!). I could write something encouraging to those people who’ve come to hate the month of February because they don’t have anyone special to share it with, but I won’t because I know no matter how long I make it, no matter how logical I may be, no matter how encouraging it is, it still won’t placate those who truly desire to be with someone deep inside their heart. I understand because I’ve been there, more times than I care to admit.
Everybody’s heard them all at one point or another. “You’ll find someone.” “God has someone special planned for you. You just need to wait!” “It’ll happen when you’re not looking.” (I always hated this one because it would send me in a tizzy. If I stopped looking, it would be because I wanted a date so I would stop looking just for the sake of getting a date which would invariably fail because in a sense I was looking for a date just by not looking. See what I mean?) And so forth.
It took me a long time, but all of those cliches finally came true for me almost a year ago. This will be the first time in my life I’m spending Valentine’s Day with someone I love. I have two best friends that I hang out with all the time. The joke has been that all three of us have never had girlfriends at the same time and for the longest time I was always the odd man out. It was tough being alone on Valentine’s Day when everyone you know is spending time with their significant other at that time. So, I completely understand what the pain is for some people during this day.
I never really listened to this when I was single, but now having dated for almost a year, I’ve come to realize that this is true: Cherish the time you have being single. I did and I didn’t at the same time. There are some things I wish I had done before starting dating again. So, singles: Use the time you have wisely. Use it to grow, mature and prepare yourself for life and for the time when God finally introduces you to your possible future spouse. Use the time to get to know God. Being single is NOT a curse. It’s a blessing and a period for learning and development. It’ll be the only time in your life that you get to do 100% exactly what you want to do.
How is that a bad thing?
It isn’t. Use it to your advantage. This Valentine’s Day, if you’re single do something crazy. Something that you know if you were dating you wouldn’t be able to do it. (Within moral and legal boundaries, of course.)
WhiteLancer64 says:
hmmm…. *toes the moral and legal boundaries* shucky darn. lol
Boawesome says:
Haha… brother:
I think I really agree with you about “being a single is a blessing”. I do believe God love me, and I believe I suppose enjoy my single life. I am pretty happy with my life now, I can hang around with a lot of female friends too. I had a lot of fun with my friends!
Thanks dude!
Bo
Cease_a_roni says:
wow. awesome. I think I needed to read that.
thanks for sharing.
Earth_Alien_RV3 says:
*sits in the back corner listening intently…*
You know, I never thought I’d hear myself say this… but, “Good call, Professor Matt!!!”
(and that was not done to cheapen or comicalize (that’s right, I just made up a word) your entry either… i always just kinda took this kinda stuff with a grain of salt before… but now I think I’m starting to agree.Sorry–startED to agree.)
Now that could have much to do with the fact that relationships kinda scare me and that whole dilemma of how can I be a leader of a relationship if i can’t even get myself a decent job or figure out what the CRAP I should do with my life… but at the same time, i SERIOUSLY DOUBT i’ve fallen that much into despair to believe that’s honestly all of it.
so i guess what i’m really trying to say is that this entry’s contents, for once, though i’ve heard it all before, kinda inspired me. so thanks matt. i think. since amanda said that i inspired you, i have to somewhat question (have to!) the validity of thanking you.
just kidding. see you soon!
–Russ.